As someone that has felt the impact of trauma throughout my life I am only speaking from my own personal experience and I want to shed light on the lasting impact that trauma can have on our relationships and overall well-being. Regardless of when the trauma occurred it can leave emotional wounds that significantly influence our interactions with others. These wounds can manifest in various ways, rendering trust, intimacy, and vulnerability difficult, leading to struggles in setting boundaries and even attracting unhealthy dynamics. It also can cause anxiety social anxiety, difficulties with self esteem, avoidant behaviors. Trauma and it's affects are unique to each individual and we all have a unique path on our road to healing.



The consequences of trauma extend beyond relationship challenges, often resulting in anxiety, depression, or a general discomfort when attempting to form deep connections with others. However, let me reassure you that healing from trauma is not only possible but also achievable by following specific steps. The first crucial step is developing self-awareness, which involves recognizing and understanding how the trauma has affected us. By gaining insight into our behavioral patterns and reactions, we can start rewriting the narrative of our relationship stories. 



Furthermore, the healing journey requires practicing self-compassion. It is important to be gentle with ourselves and understand that healing takes time and sometimes it is moment by moment. I am not sure if we can ever be completely healed, we can come to a better understanding, find acceptance and take ownership in what has happened and make that our super power. Nurturing self-love and prioritizing self-care play vital roles in the process. By embracing vulnerability and recognizing that it is a strength rather than a weakness, we can overcome the fear of being hurt again and open ourselves up to deeper connections. When we start to heal we decrease self doubt, we understand why we are being triggered and react,

we become gentle with ourselves and we create and protect our peace.

Some important skills to master are - self care, finding activities that bring joy, adequate sleep, a healthy diet, exercising and knowing when it is time to take a break for reflection.

Journaling- journaling is a great way to express our emotions and get them out of our system when we are feeling too much. Mindfulness and meditation are also great practices to help regulate our emotions. when we are feeling stress, anxiety or just over thinking this will help bring us back to the present moment. The most important thing we need is our tribe around us. Find a support system that brings safety and allows you to feel seen, heard and understood.


It is extremely vital to seek professional help and investing in therapy, coaching or support groups and to build a strong community of people that will love, encourage and support you. These resources provide a safe space for individuals to explore their trauma, learn coping skills, and gain valuable guidance from experts. By prioritizing our mental and emotional well-being, we can take the necessary steps towards healing.



Ultimately, healing from relational trauma involves reclaiming our personal strength and rebuilding trust in ourselves and others. This transformative process allows us to create healthier and more satisfying relationships. By acknowledging and comprehending the impact of trauma, we gain a newfound understanding of ourselves and our actions, enabling us to foster more meaningful connections and live a more fulfilling life.

                                                                           Get rooted into you!

                                                                                      Heather